H is army crawling at six months! He’s amazing!
We had another meeting with the ongoing workers. They brought us pictures. These boys are the cutest things you’ve ever seen! I have a phone meeting with our adoption worker this week where we are going to talk finances and the next step.
Our home study is complete. TPR will not be filed until the boys are placed in an adoptive home. Often adoption assistance is given to families adopting children out of foster care as well as medical insurance and the kids get that until they turn 18. We just assumed whatever kids we adopted would have that as that was my previous experience. Turns out these kids most likely won’t be eligible for any assistance which is kind of shocking to me given that they’re siblings, children of color, and would be probably 5 or close to it when they’re adopted. Without any adoption assistance, we have to take a closer look at how we can make this work as we’d be raising six kids on a teacher salary and non-profit salary. I figure that’s one of the reasons we have a worker-she can help us process that.
I’m hoping that we’ll get to meet the kids sometime in the next two weeks. So excited!
We met with two case managers last week regarding the potential adoption of pre-school age twins. Guess how many pieces of paper the workers brought with them? Exactly zero. It’s sort of unbelievable that it took two people to come to our house to essentially tell us we were a good fit for these kids because the kids are “adorable”, and if we has actually had an opportunity to see the kids “it would seal the deal”. Yes, I make every major life decision based on how a child looks.
The workers would like the kids to move in with us as soon as possible. This too is confusing to me because we have been asking to see the file since June and this is the first time we’ve been contacted. We are going to have another meeting next week. Hopefully with paperwork.
DH asked his HR dept (which consists of one whole person) at the beginning of August to take FMLA the two afternoons a week that I have to go into work. Apparently there has literally been no one in his entire office that has ever asked to take FMLA. DH started the process in the beginning of August and was finally told today that his employer will not allow him to take incremental leave. Keep in mind federal law requires his employer to respond to his request within five days and its been more than a month. We are now left with the option of putting the kids in daycare or DH taking the full 12 weeks if leave without pay. Good golly, it’s not supposed to be this hard.
Y’all we got the call for the twins early last week. This is not a foster care case, this is a foster to adopt case. The workers are coming out to present the files to us this week. They will give us as much information as they have and then we will have time to consider if we feel like we are a good fit for them.
I’m excited and nervous and have no idea if this will work our for us or not. Our house is not big. Somewhere between 1500-1700 sq ft. We have four kids and two of them don’t sleep through the night. DH and I both work full-time (although that may change if we take placement).